"No expectations, no disappointments"
"Expectation is the root of all heartache"
"I really need to expect less of people"
"Peace begins when expectation ends"
"I find my life is easier the lower I keep my expectations"
We expect things from everyone. We expect love and priority from our family and close friends. We expect that our paycheck will be on time. We expect that the school bus will pick up our children every school day and bring them back. We expect that people in office will fulfill their duties as determined.
And when expectations aren't met, we are disappointed. Sad, Mad, Hurt, Inconvenienced...
"No expectations, no disappointments" I use this quote when I am licking my wounds.
So don't expect anything anything from folks and you won't be disappointed, right?
I found myself continuously in this boat. I had expectations... I was not included, someone didn't step up to the plate as they should, a Dr misread a test result etc etc.
So I was justified to be hurt, right?
UM, NO. Just, NO.
Does that teeter on entitlement? They didn't do as they should have so now I am entitled to feel this way? UGH. I HATE THE WORD ENTITLEMENT.
Time to get a grip. Why let others control your state of mind? I had two situations recently. One of them I went into a meeting with NO expectations. At all. Just thought I was making a good business and life contact and learning a little in the process. Turns out I was completely blessed in that meeting. My fairy Godmother appeared and granted my three wishes. No expectations, BIG PAYOFF. The other situation was completely different. I had unrealistic expectations of family. When they didn't do as I expected, I was completely hurt and disappointed and felt as though I didn't make a cut.
Perfect examples of why we should not have expectations, right?
The key to managing our expectations may be in knowing in what situations to have expectations. My lesson? When I am experiencing disappointment from failed expectations, what can I do next time to influence things differently? Nothing? Very good... learn and move on. Everything? Learn from it and change MY OWN behavior. Change how you perceive. So hard, but so worth it.
Mom, you were right again.
"Too many people miss the silver linings, because they are expecting gold."